Work! Work! Work!

Been swamped with work related projects these past two weeks (meeting press deadlines for ON & Polari Magazines) and feeding cats RE: my pet care service.
And my webmaster, who has the technical know how that I lack (posting the court audio that I announced was coming) has been studying for his school finals, so it's been quiet here.

But Mike, the webmaster, & I have set aside Thursday of this week to post that court audio, so stay tuned.

What you will hear on those recordings is deeply and profoundly
disturbing. Not only do they prove that Kathryn Rock & Stephen Polich used my ex's disabilities as a control device, the audio
proves that they deliberately inflicted intense psychological harm on Beecher so as to turn him into their child.

The audio raises even more disturbing questions about gay rights groups and other gay journalists, many of whom recieved CDs of the recordings.
Most of them responded by making fun of the fact that Beecher & I are no longer together~~which is pretty much how they treated their own supporters during the recent marriage equality battles in California & Maine, causing us to lose both battles.

Let's not kid ourselves. We, as LGBT people, remain third class because our self appointed leaders have intentionally sold us out for personal gain. And that makes our "leaders" far worse than those who campaign against our rights.

See you in a few days.

David Alex Nahmod
SF CA
Dec 2009

Kathryn Rock & Stephen Polich: Time To Go to the Police

At 32 comments, my last post has gotten a little too long, The discussion will continue here, and the court audio I mentioned in that last post will still go up in a few days.

In her last comments, I'm Not Crazy/Not Kathryn pretty much makes an admission of guilt RE: causing trouble between Beecher, my ex, and I.
Instead of her usual silly threats, she's now begging me not to take action against her.

Too late.
I tried to let go of this matter several times. Rock & Polich could have gotten rid of me years ago by not interfering when I tried to forward Beecher's mail to him, and by not taking out phony restraining orders, one of which was already ruled by a judge to be bogus.

According to Kathryn Rock's former mother in law, Rock began plotting our break-up as far back as 2001, at a time when Beecher & I were together and happy. When she lived up the street from us in Hoboken NJ, before we all moved out West, Rock began using Beecher's disabilities to control what he thought about me and how he treated me.
As Rock intended, this started the destructive chain reaction that destroyed our relationship.

With the court audio to be posted at my next post, I will show (and prove) how Rock & Polich used Beecher's disabilities to control him. And that they went as far as mail tampering, fraud & perjury to make all this happen.

Based on her last few comments at my last post, I've decided that I will report Rock & Polich's actions to the SFPD REGARDLESS of whether or not they take legal action against me~~this will be done by Monday at the latest.

What Rock & Polich did is not only evil & immoral, it's a crime punishable by jail time. In a blue state like California, where most judges, cops & politicians are pro-gay (especially here in the Bay Area) Rock & Polich may not find that their asses are kissed like they do in anti-gay Arizona.

Erase Hate!

David Alex Nahmod
SF CA
Nov 2009

Coming Soon: The Voice of Stephen Polich

A few months ago, I got an email from "someone in Surprise AZ who agrees with you".
Imagine my "surprise" when that person turned out to be
Kerri Gaffield Polich, ex wife to Stephen Polich.

About six months before my ex Beecher & I split up, Stephen married Beecher's "best friend" Kathryn Rock. At that time I was told that Kerri had died of cancer five years prior.
But this was no ghost who contacted me. Kerri is alive and well,
living wth her two daughters by Stephen in Arizona.
After a few emails, Kerri & I spoke on the phone.

Kerri spoke eloquently and openly about the mind control games going in Stephen's household. She verifies my claims that Beecher is being controlled by his housemates.

Kerri has her own horror stories to share~~both she and her elder daughter
endured beatings from Stephen.
So those in the gay community who ignored and/or laughed at my cries for help weren't just enabling the creeps who destroyed my relationship with Beecher, they were enabling a creep who thinks its OK to beat women.

My very next post will contain quotes I got from Kerri Gaffield Polich as to what goes on in that household~~I post them with her permision.
That post will also include links to MP3 audio files of the two court hearings between myself
and members of that household. Those audios prove byond any shadow of a doubt that Kathryn & Stephen Polich resorted to mail tampering, fraud & perjury to get Beecher to live with them and to isolate him not only from me but from all his true friends.
The audios further prove that Beecher's housemates have repeatedly used his disabilities as a control device, and that they "rescued" him from problems they deliberately provoked behind his back.


A few days ago, I got another unexpected email: Niki D'andrea, the out lesbian reporter for the Phoenix New Times who misreported my story last year (deliberately ignoring documentation when she did so) wants to "bury the hatchett." Her email was heartfelt and poignant~~but as I told her privately, in order for us to make peace, she must retract her original story and report the truth.

Niki, as a gay man speaking to a lesbian, I hope you'll listen to those audio files carefully. Then look deep in your heart.
People like Kathryn & Stephen want to hurt us. The legal system in red states like Arizona are behind them, because in Arizona, LGBT people don't count.

I hope you'll do the right thing, Niki.

David Alex Nahmod
SF CA
Nov 2009

The Sweetest Facebook Friend of All

Over the past 1 1/2 years, I've blogged quite a bit about my ex, Beecher. He continues to live in Arizona with Kathryn & Stephen Polich, the conservative anti-gay Christian couple who have literally hijacked and control his life.
Beecher is on SSI.

Two years ago, most likely while in a manic state, Beecher calld me, screaming that I should leave him & his two sons alone~~never mind that I wasn't trying to contact any of them at that time.
I was told that the boys hated me.
I now have proof that he heard this not from his boys but from his housemates Kathryn & Stephen, who lie to him constantly.

Two days ago, one of Beecher's sons added me as a Facebook friend.
In a Facebook message, he said he was glad to be in touch with me and thanked me for my kindness over the years.

I set up my Facebook page a few months ago, but until earlier this week, I didn't maintain it. I had gotten busy with some work related projects, so I didnt post a profile, didn't invite friends, or respond to friend invitations.

But I began working on my page a few days ago and it's been a blast! I've connected with people I lost touch with, including my long lost close friend Hudi, who was my next door neighbor in Tel Aviv Israel nearly 20 years ago.
I hope to take a trip to Israel in 2010 to see him and other friends.

But being added by Beecher's son Scott was sweet. Beecher's anti-gay housemates have put me through a lot~~tampering with his mail, taking out phony restraining orders against me, taunting me behind his back.
Sometimes I dealt with this well, sometimes
not so well~~there were times when I let my anger get the better of me and ranted, to say the least.

Though I know that I could never get back together with Beecher, I always knew that he didn't "hate" me, that he still cares, as do I.

Nothing proves this more that the warm reaction I got from his son.
Thank you, Facebook, for helping Scott & I find each other.

It's my hope that I can get Scott to tell his Dad the truth about what Kathryn
& Stephen have done.
Nothing would make me happier than to get Beecher away from those evil people and back to Connecticut, where his boys miss and
love him.

David Alex Nahmod
SF CA
Nov 2009

When Is It Our Fault?

Two weeks ago, President Obama gladly signed the Matthew Shepard hate crimes bill.
The following day, he announced that the HIV travel ban is lifted as of Jan 1st, 2010.
The President has also publicly called for the repeal of Don't Ask Don't Tell & the Defense of Marriage Act.

Yet nationally known gay rights groups and gay activists, many of whom haven't accomplished a thing in years, now complain about how the President is "not keeping his word to us."

Bullshit. Like most of our straight allies, Mr. Obama has done far more to advance LGBT equality than our own good for nothing activists.

When I needed the community's help, scores of gay activists, gay journalists, and every gay rights group that I called, told me to "get over it."
Oh, there was a trickle of support here & there, but not enough to make a difference.

Over at http://www.queerty.com/, I see that about 500 comments per week are being posted by other LGBTs from all over the country who also say that they're tired of our do nothing gay rights groups. They're just us tired as I of the "bitchy queen" back stabbing that passes for our social norm.
What I find so disturbing is that many of those who behave this way justify their actions by hurling false accusations of homophobia at other LGBTs who refuse support gay on gay hate.

In her new book, The Ties That Bind, lesbian author Sarah Shulmann argues that negative, anti-gay reinforcement from our birth families and society in general can and is causing a lot of dysfunctional behavior in LGBT relationships. Dr. Alan Downs, who is also openly gay, makes similar arguments in his book The Velvet Rage.

I completely agree with both authors.

But where dos our own culpability begin?
When is our own behavior our own fault?
When is the lack of support for each other that one finds in the LGBT community, or the rampant bitchy queen/angry dyke nastiness the fault of the perpetrators?
When is it OK to tell those who behave this way to act like adults and accept responsibility for their actions?

And when are our gay rights organizations, who ask for our money, ignore our cries for help, and get nothing done, ever. When do they get held accountable?

When does it become OK for me as a gay man to demand a real community?

David Alex Nahmod
SF CA
Nov 2009

In Defense of NG, part two

A follow-up to this post:
http://davidsopenforum.blogspot.com/2009/10/in-defense-of-ng.html

When a nationally known gay activist "warned" me not to associate with Nelson Garcia, the blogger know as NG, here was the proof I was offered:

http://americansfortruth.com/news/nelson-garcia-aka-ng-blog-boy-lover-with-criminal-child-porn-conviction-blasts-aftah.html

The website is Americans For Truth About Homosexuality. It's run by Peter La Barbera, a conservative "Christian" hatemonger who has also called for all people with HIV to be locked up in internment camps.

If NG really is a "dangerous pedophile", then I want to see actual proof, not the rantings
of a Jesus freak whose only goal is to take rights away from LGBT people.
That a gay activist would consider La Barbera's anti-gay hate as "proof" of another gay man's "guilt" is not only shocking, it's typical of how some of our more famous "activists", and many of our gay rights groups, have conducted themselves for the better part of 30 years.

And that's why we still don't have full equality.
No wonder NG & I sometimes get so angry: look what we have to put up with from our "own people".


David Alex Nahmod
SF CA
Nov 2009

President Obama: A True Friend

I'm so proud of our President today: he signed the Matthew Shepard hate crimes bill.
Thank you, Mr. President.
I never doubted your word for a second.

Once again I wish to say that I'm sorry about how much anger I allowed to spill out into this blog in earlier posts.
I was one angry dude~~maybe I still am.
There's just been so little unity in the movement, so much grudge holding, and so much back stabbing. It's been holding us back for years~~I yearn and ache for something better, for a real LGBT community.

It's my fervent hope that the signing of this bill will be the first step towards true LGBT equality in the USA~~and maybe a first step towards healing a fragmented community.

David Alex Nahmod
Oct 2009
SF CA